Veronica Monet (born April 1, 1960) is an American author and activist for sex worker rights.[1] Her early activism focused on disproving stereotypes about sex workers and advocating for the decriminalization of all sex work. From 1989 to 2004, she was a high-end escort and courtesan.[2] Monet's later work focuses on anger management, healing shame, and helping couples integrate their sexuality with their spirituality.[3]
Veronica Monet | |
|---|---|
| Born | April 1, 1960 |
| Alma mater | Oregon State University |
| Occupation(s) | activist, author, therapist |
| Website | theshamefreezone |
Early life and education
editVeronica Monet was born to working-class parents in the rural town of Prairie City, Oregon. She was homeschooled and did not participate in public education until entering college in 1978 when she was granted Honors at Entrance at Oregon State University. In 1982, she graduated from Oregon State University with honors, earning a Bachelor of Science in psychology and a minor in business administration.[4]
In an article written by Monet, she said that her father, who was a victim of sexual abuse as a child, had started taking nude pictures of her at the age of 5. He would also insult her for her looks throughout her childhood and later on made sexual advances at her. Monet also claims that her father hated her mother and would hit her.[5]
After graduating, she worked in corporates, where she experienced workplace sexual harassment.[6]
In her early adult life, Monet's used drugs and alcohol, eventually entering the twelve-step program and becoming sober in 1985.[7]
Career
editMonet became an escort in 1989 and worked as a clean and sober high-end escort for fifteen years.[7] Throughout her escorting career, Monet was married and helped to raise her husband's two young children.[8]
In the fall of 2000, the Kinsey Institute established The Veronica Monet Collection.[9]
Academics in the field of psychology have referenced Monet's expertise on the dynamics of sexual shame and porn addiction. She is cited in the late Christopher Kennedy Lawford's Recover to Live: Kick Any Habit Manage Any Addiction (pages 166–167),[10] and Stanford professor Philip Zimbardo's Man (Dis)Connected (page 223).[11] Monet's first book Sex Secrets of Escorts, was published by Penguin in 2005.
Monet became a Certified Sexologist through the American College of Sexologists in 2007 and an anger management specialist through Century Anger Management.[12] She is also a graduate of San Francisco Sex Information[13] and now works as a relationship therapist.[14]
Selected works
editBooks
edit- Monet, Veronica (2005). Veronica Monet's Sex Secrets of Escorts: What Men Really Want. DK Publishing. ISBN 9781440690778.
- Monet, Veronica (2009). Sex de Luxe: Profi-Tipps für heiße Nächte (in German). Goldmann Verlag. ISBN 9783641017033.
References
edit- ^ John Bogert (March 20, 2008). "Escort explains sex secrets, success". The Sun. Retrieved September 11, 2019.
- ^ "Escort explains sex secrets, success". San Bernardino Sun. March 20, 2008.
- ^ "Building a Shame-Free Zone in a Sexually Messed Up World: Veronica Monet on PYP 556 - Plant Yourself". plantyourself.com. June 7, 2023. Retrieved October 31, 2023.
- ^ "Modern Sex Conference". February 15, 2011.
- ^ Monet, Veronica (November 24, 2020). "How I Healed From Being Raised By A Father Who Took Nude Photos Of Me". YourTango. Retrieved June 20, 2023.
- ^ "Former escort says sex is all in the mind". San Francisco Chronicle. December 11, 2005. Retrieved September 11, 2019.
- ^ a b Michael Castleman (October 23, 2002). "The Two Worlds of Veronica Monet". Salon. Retrieved September 11, 2019.
- ^ "Escort's hot tip: It's not just about the sex, it's about the mind". San Francisco Gate. November 23, 2005.
- ^ Indiana University, Bloomington – Veronica Monet collection. 2000.
- ^ Lawford, Christopher Kennedy (December 18, 2012). Recover to Live: Kick Any Habit Manage Any Addiction. BenBella. ISBN 978-1936661961.
- ^ Zimbardo, Philip (May 17, 2015). Man (Dis)Connected. Rider. ISBN 978-1846044847.
- ^ "Psychology Today".
- ^ Lawford, Christopher (May 17, 2015). Recover to Live. BenBella. ISBN 978-1936661978.
- ^ "Psychology Today directory".